click on my icon
click on my icon
St. Raphael Memorial Garden and Columbarium
Eternal rest grant them, O Lord,
and let perpetual light shine on them.
Requiem aeternam dona eis, Domine,
et lux perpetua luceat eis.
 | Call 865.5700 At St. Raphael's we provide alternative burial arrangements for St. Raphael members who prefer cremation to in ground entombment. We hope these questions and answers will help you.
|
THE CHURCH AND CREMATION
As a Catholic, may I be cremated?
Yes. In May 1963, the Vatican's Holy Office (now known as the Congregation for the Doctrine of Faith) lifted the prohibition forbidding Catholics to choose cremation. This permission was incorporated into the revised Code of Canon Law of 1983, and its liturgies were written in the Order of Christian Funerals. At that time, it was standard practice to celebrate the funeral liturgies with the body present and have the body cremated following the ceremony. More recently, however, the bishops of the United States and the Holy See have authorized the celebration of a Catholic funeral liturgy with just the cremated remains present.
Do I need to ask permission to be cremated?
No, but it is a good idea to inform the Pastor of your intention.
Can I scatter the ashes? May I keep the ashes on my mantle?
No. The practice of scattering cremated remains on the sea, from the air, or on the ground, or keeping cremated remains in the home of a relative or a friend, are not the reverent disposition that the Church requires. Cremated remains, like a body, are to be placed in a final permanent resting place.
May anything be added to cremated remains such as cremated remains of other persons, pets or objects?
No. The principle of respect for the cremated remains of a deceased Christian embraces the deeper belief in the individuality of each baptized person before God. Throughout history, the mingling of remains has never been an accepted practice except in extraordinary circumstances.
When should cremation take place?
The Church prefers that cremation take place after a funeral liturgy with the body present. The body most clearly brings to mind the life and death of the person and better expresses the values that the Church affirms in its rites. Nevertheless, it is permitted to have a funeral liturgy with just the cremated remains present.
ABOUT CREMATION
Who decides if I am cremated?
You make the decision to be cremated while you are alive. However, your survivors could decide for you if your desires are not previously known. Rarely is it necessary to act against your wishes.
How do I make my wishes known?
You can make your wishes known by informing the loved one who will be responsible for your funeral arrangements or in documents designed to help plan and prepare your funeral. (These documents are available from a funeral director.) It is not a good idea to specify your funeral arrangements in your will, because it may not be read until some time after the funeral.
Must I honor my parent's or spouse's desire for cremation?
Out of respect for loved ones, you will want to do all you can to carry out the wishes of the deceased concerning funeral services, provided they are in keeping with Church practice. You should keep in mind, however, the therapeutic value to the survivors by celebrating the funeral liturgy with the body present. This may outweigh your reasons for a liturgy with only the cremated remains present.
Is it necessary to embalm?
When cremation is to follow soon after death, embalming is not necessary. When cremation follows the funeral liturgy, embalming is usually required. Each state has its own regulations in this matter, but generally the rule is that a deceased human body that is not buried or cremated within 24 hours is to be embalmed or refrigerated.
Is it necessary to purchase a casket if I am to be cremated?
No. It is not necessary to purchase a casket for cremation. If you choose to have the body present for the funeral Mass with cremation later, then rental of a casket is an option. Most funeral directors offer casket rental.
What is the proper container for cremated remains?
The U.S. Bishop's Committee on the Liturgy has determined that urns must be simple and unadorned. Ostentatious urns, statuary, and space capsules are examples of "designer" containers now being offered that are unacceptable in Catholic funeral practices. It is also unacceptable to have any art of the cremated remains be made into jewelry, dishes, art works, etc.
If I choose cremation, is it necessary to call a funeral home?
Yes. In North Carolina, a registered funeral director always performs the cremation. It is important to note you are not required to have a viewing of the body at the funeral home.
Can a family member be present at the cremation?
Although not customarily done, family members may choose to be present during cremation.
How are the cremated remains transported to the church?
Typically, the cremated remains are delivered directly to the church by the funeral director at the time of the funeral.
Must cremated remains be buried or interred?
Yes. Respectful, final disposition of cremated remains requires burial or interment in a columbarium.
FUNERAL RITES
What funeral rites are celebrated when a person is cremated?
In the Order of Christian Funerals, the United States bishops have included prayers that are used when the cremated remains are present in a church. The following rituals may be celebrated:
Prayers After Death
Gathering in the Presence of the Body
Vigil for the Deceased
Funeral Mass or Funeral Liturgy Outside Mass
Rite of Committal
Should I schedule a funeral Mass before or after cremation?
The Church prefers cremation after the funeral Mass. However, an indult has been granted by the Holy See which provides for the celebration of the Mass with the cremated remains in church.
Do I need permission to have cremated remains in church for the funeral liturgy?
The indult granting authority to perform a funeral liturgy in the presence of cremated remains (in place of the body) requires a bishop's authorization. Although the Bishop of the Diocese of Raleigh has authorized it, it is customary that you inform the Pastor prior to cremation.
What duration of time occurs between death, cremation, and the funeral Mass?
This depends on various factors such as the place of death, scheduling a time for cremation, the Church calendar, and the schedule of the parish. Consult your funeral director and the parish office for details.
What happens at the funeral Mass with cremated remains?
A journey, which began at baptism, comes to conclusion as we enter into eternal life. Significant attention should be given to the primary symbols of the Catholic funeral liturgy, as stated in the Order of Christian Funerals and its commentaries. The paschal candle and sprinkling with holy water are primary symbols of baptism and will be used during the Mass.
During the funeral Mass, the cremated remains are treated with the same dignity and respect as a deceased body. The remains are sealed in an urn, and the urn is carried in procession by pallbearers (usually two) and set on a table where the coffin would normally be placed.
Photos and other mementos may be used at a vigil but are generally not appropriate during the Mass.
How much time elapses from the funeral Mass until the remains are interred in the columbarium?
If the body is present at the funeral Mass, the funeral director will advise you on the time necessary to do the cremation. Usually, it is a day or two. The interment then follows shortly thereafter. If the cremated remains are present at the Mass, the interment will usually occur immediately after Mass.
Is a ritual conducted when the remains are interred in the Columbarium?
Yes. The Rite of Committal is very similar to the service conducted at a gravesite in a cemetery.
What specifically is a columbarium?
A columbarium is an arrangement of openings into which an urn or urns containing the cremated remains of a deceased person is placed for permanent interment. These openings are approximately 12" wide, 10" deep, and 10" high and are called "niches." Our columbarium consists of free-standing brick walls, each of which contains 100 marble niches.
If I choose to be cremated, what are the advantages of choosing the columbarium as opposed to a cemetery? This is a personal choice. Many people choose to be interred in a columbarium because of a strong desire to be laid to rest on the grounds of the church that they have loved and served. Proximity makes it convenient for visits by loved ones, and for periods of meditation and reflection.
Also, the cost of internment in a columbarium is usually considerably less than the cost of burial at a cemetery. Other factors that may enter into your decision are concerns about the environment and space availability at a cemetery.
At St. Raphael's, care of the grounds surrounding the columbarium will be tastefully, continually, and perpetually provided.
Where is St. Raphael's Memorial Garden and Columbarium located?
Our Memorial Garden and Columbarium is on the church grounds. This location provides an exceptionally beautiful, private site for grieving, prayer and meditation.
My spouse is not a Catholic and I want to be buried with my spouse. Are there any provisions whereby we can be placed in the same niche?
Yes. Each niche holds two urns. Your non-Catholic spouse may have a funeral rite at the columbarium and then be placed in your columbarium niche. All internment liturgies, however, will be in keeping with Roman Catholic rites; exceptions require approval by the Pastor.
Who may be interred in our columbarium?
The columbarium is intended primarily for the parishioners of St. Raphael Catholic Church. Therefore, any active registered member of the parish may purchase niches and memorial plaques.
The purchaser, however, may inter family members who may not be parishioners, but this is limited to the spouse, parents, grandparents, siblings, children and grandchildren of the purchaser. The family members do not have to be Catholic. The Pastor must approve any exceptions.
May non-parishioners be interred in our columbarium?
A limited number of niches will be available for purchase by active and registered Catholics from other parishes, and they may be purchased with the agreement of the Columbarium Committee. There is an increased charge for non-parishioners. The stipulations regarding interment of family members are the same for non-parishioners.
My family members are buried in another city. Can I remember them at the site of the memorial gardens?
Yes. A special wall adjacent to the columbarium contains plaques that commemorate loved ones who may be buried elsewhere with an inscription of the name of the deceased.
May more than two people be interred in a niche?
No
Do I supply my own urn?
Yes, a six inch (6") cube is recommended.
May I decorate the area near my niche with flowers?
No. The columbarium site will be perpetually maintained in a manner designed to be beautiful, serene, holy and edifying.
How are niches assigned?
The niches are assigned in sequential order. However, you may request a specific niche, and it will be assigned to you if it has not already been purchased.
I am interested in purchasing a niche or a memorial plaque. What is the next step?
You may call the parish office 865.5700
You have died, and now the life you have is hidden with Christ in God.
But when Christ is revealed — and he is your life —
you too will be revealed in all your glory with him.
Colossians 3:3-4